Delayed Gratification – God’s Way

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Grandchild #10

Grandchild #10

   This has been the year of babies in my extended family. In the space of about a week, our family welcomed 4 new additions! One of my nieces, who lives in another state, gave birth to a beautiful little girl, and my other niece, who lives nearby, gave birth to twin boys! While my daughter-in-law, on the other side of the globe, gave birth to  grandchild #10 for us .  

   I was asked about how hard it must be for me to see and/hold my new great nephews and not to get to do the same with my own grandson. I replied, “Yes it is! But when God calls you to something, He equips you to be able to handle the hard stuff!”

   Now, that’s a short statement, but the process God took me through to be able to make that statement was lengthy. For it started when I was 9 years old, when I accepted Christ as my Savior. Then at 21 years, I surrender my total life and future to God. This was pretty significant because I remember vividly, in tears, telling God that even if He called me to Africa, I would still give my whole life to Him. Well, God didn’t call me to Africa, instead He called me to be a pastor’s wife who would one day surrender her only son to Africa at His bidding! 

   However, God didn’t wait to give me what I needed to deal with having a grandson who would be 5 months old before I would get to hold him and love on him (while nephews and nieces were being born seemingly all around me; while their grandparents were enjoying holding and loving on their precious grand babies).  No, through out my life, one step at a time, He would be walking me towards that eventful day when my newest grandson would be born.

   And how on earth did God accomplish this?

   I believe that one of the most beneficial things God did for me was to open my understanding to the debilitating effects negative thinking can have. I was tempted, as you would suspect, to feel sorry for myself that I would not get to be present when my grandson was born! If I had of allowed myself to remain focused on such a thought (I call them fiery darts), I would have been pulled toward despair. 

   But God has taught me to recognize such negative thinking for the fiery darts they are and guided me as to how to reject them and replace them with His Truth thoughts. I will offer below just some of the Truth thoughts with which God has sustained me: (in trying to keep my word count down, I will only post the references)

Lamentations 3:22-23

Philippians 4:6-7

Isaiah 26:33

Romans 8:28

Philippians 4:13

2 Corinthians 12:9

   So whenever those fiery darts come knocking at my mind’s door, the above Truth thoughts are sent to answer, leaving me to live my life free of the victimization brought about by fiery dart thinking. 

   To find out more about the weapon of fiery darts and how they are used to produce bondage and undermine God’s plans for us, click on the following link:



Just resist!

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     As some of you may know, I write another blog entitled, Fiery Darts.  This blog goes along with my book Fiery Darts: Satan’s Weapon of Choice.  It’s a book about the power of negative thinking or to put it another way, the power of fiery dart thinking.  


All 9 of my treasures!

All 9 of my treasures!

     Every time I see a picture of my 20 month old grandson or hear his voice when his daddy calls me, I get blasted with a huge onslaught of fiery darts such as:

-my grandson doesn’t know me  

-the memories I am making with my grandchildren here always exclude him

-he has no memory of our time together (when he was 3 & 4 months) 

-I miss out on the milestones of his development; first steps, crawling, first words, first tooth

-I can’t hug him, or hold him, or play with him, or rock him to sleep


How on earth do I find a way to get through my days burdened with these thoughts?

The main thing I do is to RESIST these thoughts.  Yes, they are true but what good does it do to dwell on them?  I don’t particularly enjoy being miserable but if I allow these fiery dart thoughts to rule my thinking then miserable I would be.

What do I do instead?

I recognize them for the fiery darts they are.

I reject them. (I don’t allow myself to dwell on such thoughts)

I replace these thoughts with truth thoughts.

Such as:

-Thanking God for the time I got to visit him where I held him, sang to him, and lavished as much attention on him as I could.  

-Looking forward to future visits with him for he will be 2+ and might even be able to remember me some.

-Resting in the peace that God will give us a special attachment for each other.

-Being content to share in his life though packages from home, and whatever media source God provides.

-Thanking God for the relationship I have with his parents knowing they will be deliberate about making sure my grandson will know me. 

     But the main thing is to accept and be at peace with the call of God on his parent’s life, and giving them all the love and support they deserve. Philippines 4:6-7 is my stabilizing force in all of this:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.-

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